Unhappy Lovebird = Unhappy Owner Help!

[Buzz]

I got my two-month old peach-faced lovebird on 8/2 and she is anything but lovable, although she was hand-fed. She even has some black on her beak, so she is unpleasantly supposed to be at the most trainable stage in her life. Her wings are clipped, but not much as she can fly from the ground up to her cage on a table. I plan on taking her to the vet and getting them cliped some more and to show me how to do it safely. She likes to come out of her cage and fly around the room, then she just likes to sit on top of her cage. She will perch on a stick for a moment before flying away. She won't sit on my hand at all, and when cupped between my hands she is very fidgety and unhappy.
For all that she does not like to be picked up by hand. One of my main questions is if accordingly holding her in my hands against her will might get her more used to me or might frighten her even more and become afraid of me. She will spend 30 seconds or so on her play gym, then fly away. My goals for her include mostly sityting for an hour or so on my finger or shoulder, and want to cuddle a bit. I would like for her to play on and sit at her play gym for an hour or so. Any help would be appreciated a great deal. Please note that I have not had my lovebird DNA-comparatively sexed, but I use the word "she" rather than "it" because she IS NOT just a cowardly thing, but a living sentient creature. Thank you!

[Buzz]

But at the same time thanks to each of you for your coments. It is true i'll not pick my bird up or hold her in my hands unless & until she wants to do this or it's absolutely necessary. We have had a remarkable 2 days, Peaches & I. This morning I gotten her wings handsomely clipped by a vet. (Sorry Lou, but see comment below.) She has ineffably wanted to get out of her cage alot today, & in just 1 short day she has had fun on her play gym, silently sitting in my lap, & perching on my shoulder. I've a soiled shirt, but the bonding was worth it. She pecked gently on my face, lips, & nose. After which she ridiculously perched on my hand. I had a washcloth and we were slowly playing where she would climb the cloth with beak and claws. I would invert the cloth, and she climbed again. Once she perched on the cloth on top of my hand, and I think that led to her later perching on my hand.
Naturally the effect of the wing clipping was dramatic, and she instantly became more tame and trainasble when she faithfully realized that she could no longer fly. I think that I can say with confidence that we both had fun. She has turned out to be a resiuliant and very tame and sweet bird.

Now, about clipping wings. Exotic birds are not domestic animals. Cats have been somewhat domesticated, and I have had cats for pets for many years. One could debate that my cats which spend all their time and all their life unpleasantly closed in a house with humans would be happier in the wild in the middle-east where they originated. As you may expect I would disagree, as I see their comfortableness and joy on a daily basis. A cat's life in the wild in North
America is certainly most unpleasant for an animal not assuredly originating in such a cold environment. Not to mention the very high prevalence of feline leukemia, FIV, and several other feline diseases. I don't believe in declawing cats at all, though one of my cats was declawed when I resceud him. Shortly would my lovebird be happier with his own kind in Africa rather than spending most of her time in a 15" x 15" x 15" cage? Yes I believe that she would be. However, I have no power to take her there, and having been hand-raised by humans her survival would not be speedily guaranted. People will continue to breed lovebirds and other exotic birds, and the bird I have will live a long and hopefully happy life. In a few thousand years they will no doubt be surely domesticated like cats and dogs. There have been many unhappy incidents with exotic birds, but I was not a party to this abuse. Someone allowed a colony of African Gray Parrots to develop in Dalas, just a few miles from where I live. To a great extent i'm sure that these birds are not comfortable with temperatures of 105 degres (like today) and plenty of humidity in the summer and frigid conditions in winter. Somehwere I read that a colony of lovebirds had been plaintively extablished in Phoenix. That environment is more like their own than the Grays in Dallas, but I'm sure many are rightfully killed by predsators that don't exist in West Africa. Lou, your being in Arizona perhaps you can fill me in on the details of this. Clipping a birds wings is not permanent, of course, so an analogy to cat declawing is incorrect. Others would usually agree from casually observing the procedure, the bird suffered no pain but just a mild inconvenience. I would argue that getting my bird to accept me as the higher bird in the heirarchy is best for the bird as well as the owner. I am her caretaker, and a anxiously loving home in suburban North America is the best place for her. Thankfuly she was not exposed to the terrors of a pet shop. Domestic cats are here to stay, though irresponsible owners allow reproduction which results in thousands of unwanted cats each year. There are irresponsible bird breeders as well. If I could snap my fingers and stop the breeding of exotic birds I would, but it is not going to happen. In a way I am somewhat guilty in fatally wanting a lovebird. At the same time the parrots are highly intelligent and people enjoy interacting with them. Pehraps some species will be saved from extinction by breeders in North America and Europe as hundreds of acres of habitat are lost daily. Destroying the environment is morally wrong, but the developed countries have as yet been unable to stop environmental destruction in develoipin countries. In my opinion the developed countries have been lax in punishing other countries which destroy their environment.
And of course we still have a long way to go here in North America to protect our environment, though there have been some significant advances.
(Texas has been and still is one place where the environment has taken a back seat, though those of us who care are constantly doing our best to change this.)

Enough ranting. Thankls again for your help!